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DEEP BAY PSYCHOTHERAPY
NERUOSCIENCE-INFORMED THERAPY FOR TRAUMA, STRESS & burnout.
YOU’RE TIRED OF
PEOPLE PLEASING,
OVERTHINKING &
SELF CRITICISM
If you’ve found your way here, you’re probably a reflective person. It’s likely you have some good people in your life and you’ve worked hard to cultivate these relationships. At the same time, some of these relationships (chosen or given) are draining, imbalanced, or fraught. Your relationship with yourself might be a bit on the rocks too.
Fortunately, you have some coping skills, and sometimes they work. You’ve read posts online about healthy communication and boundaries and asking for what you need. Sometimes, you feel like you’re getting it, and conversations go smoothly. But other times it feels impossible to implement what you know, or when you try, you leave the conversation feeling more tangled than connected, wondering— what the fuck is going on?
Maybe YOU’RE…
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Perhaps just this week you spent an evening giving a friend the play by play of an exchange with a coworker asking– am I being reasonable? Is it okay that I said that?
Or perhaps you were lying awake thinking about a conversation with your partner. What did they mean? Do they still care about me?
Maybe you’re reflecting on a moment with your child or your parent— was I too harsh? Too much of a pushover? Was that my shit?
The reflecting isn’t the problem- but the looping is. You just can’t seem to put it down.
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And you can’t get off. The emotional ups and downs are putting strain on your nervous system and your relationships. You’re tired of all the negative self talk and just wish your mind could chill.
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Some moments are fine. Other moments, especially after getting into another tangled conversation with your loved one, you notice you feel exhausted and overwhelmed. You wonder if it will always be this hard.
Meet your therapist
Hi, I’m Christina.
I work with queer, neurodivergent and anxious humans to close the gap between how you want to show up in relationships and how you actually do.
If you’ve ever left a conversation wondering “why didn’t I just say no?” or “why couldn’t I tell them that upset me?” or “why did I raise my voice again?” You’re not alone. Closing the gap between what we know about relationships and how we act in relationships is pretty tricky. Especially when we’re trying to do things differently than what was modeled for us when we were young.
I'm passionate about helping you understand what's getting in the way of showing up in your relationships the way you want to. Together, we'll make sense of those patterns and create lasting change. So maybe, next time, instead of storming off or shutting down, you'll find yourself looking at your dear one and saying, "Hey, that really hurt me."
here’s how to
GET STARTED:
01
Reach Out
Often hard to do. Because therapy is a weird thing. We haven’t met, and what’s going on for you is personal. Maybe you’ve seen many therapists, or maybe I’m the first one you’re considering. Either way, it’s a risk. Please know, your privacy is yours. You can tell me what you want, and I might ask you some questions, but whether and how you answer them is up to you.
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SHOW UP
Come as you are— with hopes, dreams, plans, or come with a list of stuff that sucks. Don’t worry, you don’t have to go over your whole history for me to help you. Honestly, with the methods I use (parts work and DBR) that’s not necessary.
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EXHALE
Will you exhale on the first session? Maybe. The relief of getting support is a big deal. But in the spirit of transparency— this type of healing takes some time. But parts of you likely already know that. If you want, I’ll help you.
CHANGE THAT STICKS— SO YOU CAN STOP TRYING SO HARD.
Experiential therapy works with the deeper structures of the brain to support lasting change. This doesn’t mean you’ll never storm out or shut down in an argument—but over time, you’ll do this less, and be able to show up for yourself more.
If you’re thinking that’s—