THERAPY FOR QUEER FOLKS in Vancouver, and online in BC.
QUEERNESS IS A STRENGTH IN MENTAL HEALTH RECOVERY
Most of the time when we hear about queer mental health we hear about it not going well. And fair enough— systemic oppression, family rejection, institutional systems not set up for us, the list goes on — all of these things negatively impact mental (and physical) health. This is all real.
What’s also real, is the creativity, the community and the legacy of resistance that bolsters mental health outcomes.
It’s not just the difficult/traumatic stuff that happens, but how we as individuals and communities respond to it. Whether it’s organizing events to raise funds for people we care about, gathering for a meal with hugs gentleness, or cross-stitching words of resistance to be hung in queer community homes. All of this matters. A lot.
And if you’re reading this thinking— I don’t feel connected to the queer community at all. Or, I have queer relationships but they are messy and draining at times. No sweat, if you want, I can help you find your way of building queer relationships that are life-giving to you.
Feel FAMILIAR?
You’RE KINDA LONELY AND WISH YOU HAD MORE QUEER COMMUNITY.
You have queer relationships but they often feel Fraught or messy.
YouR COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE PRETTY GOOD, BUT SOMETIMES YOU STILL FIND YOURSELF ALL TANGLED UP.
you WANT TO PROCESS PAST EXPERIENCES THAT ARE IMPACTING YOUR CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS.
Here’s what we’ll do together
THERAPY for 2SLGBTQIA+ PEOPLE CAN HELP BUILD STRONGER, MORE RESILIENT RELATIONSHIPS.
We know community matters. But sometimes past hurts get in the way of us showing up and experiencing the connection and love we seek.
Queer relationships are beautiful and live-giving and complicated and fraught and confusing and cozy and...
They are all the things. Many of my queer clients come to me looking for support navigating relationships with partner (s), friends, or family members. Queer relationships, like all relationships, are each unique and have their own gifts and challenges. But there are some common themes I see with people I sit with.
A desire for deep connection, accompanied by the pain of disconnection.
A high level of communication skills and difficulty implementing these skills consistently.
A deep understanding of relationship patterns, but an inability to make shifts that stick.
Too much processing and not enough snuggling.
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. Together we can approach these patterns with curiosity and explore what is getting in the way of you showing up how you want and experiencing the connection you long for.
YOU’RE READY TO SHIFT PATTERNS THAT ARE NO LONGER WORKING.
QUEER COMPETENT THERAPY CAN HELP YOU:
Feel more at ease in your relationships.
Relationship are hard. If you’re here, you’ve likely put in some intentional effort to cultivating and nurturing relationships in your life. But also, you’ve likely experienced your fair share of hurt in relationships. Maybe this started early in life, or perhaps later. Either way, these hurts can impact our ability to show up how we want to, and receive the love and support we crave. Healing these hurts can make room for the kinds of connection we long for.
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Feel more comfortable in your skin.
Being queer is awesome. And also, I have yet to meet a queer person who managed to completely escape the negative messaging from the cis/het culture. It’s the soup in which we live and it sneaks into our relationships, our sex lives, and the way we see ourselves. Therapy can help ease the impacts of these messages and allow you to live in more integrity with who you are.
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Be more resilient in the face of systemic oppression
Therapy is not an efficient way to change systems of oppression. Community organizing, advocating for policy change and mutual aid are far better positioned to reduce the harm caused by these systems. The role I see therapy having it to validate that this oppression is real, and it’s impacts are significant. From there, we can learn to show up to these hurt places. When we can do this, we are able to be more regulated, more resilient, and less likely to burn out. We are also more able to make concious choices about where to put our resistance energy.
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Create a life that is in line with who you are
As mentioned above- being queer is awesome. Queer community and family building are awesome. Queer expression and art are awesome. Also— living in a cis-het relationship-escalator focused world— is less awesome. Living a queer life requires more creativity, more perseverance, more self awareness and more communication skills. That’s annoying, but true. Therapy can help.
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Change is possible.
I’LL HELP YOU GET THERE.
FAQs
COMMON QUESTIONS
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Yes. Many of my clients are trans, non-binary, and gender-diverse. I aim to create a space where you feel respected, understood, and able to show up as yourself—without having to educate your therapist about your identity.
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Yes, many of my clients are practicing various forms of ENM, polyamory, relationships anarchy etc.
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I commute into Vancouver for work. I sometimes come in for events, but it’s unlikely we’ll see each other consistently in queer spaces in Vancouver. If it happens, we can talk about it.